Thursday, July 21, 2016
In Chapter 2 we try to share our favorite videos with you and describe why they were so valuable to each of us. We hope that you can find your favorite as well.
David's Haircut. We invite you into the salon with us as he looses his beautiful locks--remember to watch for the the mohawk just for Matt and his football team!
Cancer, Chemo and Medications explains the choices one must make as they are taking so many medications. Again, watch the reference to Matt's state-championship football game!
The 21-Day Cycle of Chemotherapy explains how David feels on various days between treatments. This is the video the man in the hospital was talking about in the beginning of the chapter.
A funny side note here: Notice that David is using his iPad to prop up the chart he made by hand- he couldn't figure out how to get it on his iPad! LOL
A bonus look at the fun at the famous state championship football game mentioned by Matt in this chapter! Matt's team won and the General was awaiting in the tunnel!
|Tina, Andrew, Jessica prepare to cheer!|
|Happy General's greet in the tunnel after the victory|
|Matt on the field|
|Part of the squad cheering: David, Debbie, Andrew, Jessica, Tina|
|David prepares for radiation therapy to help with his vomiting.|
We share three videos in this chapter, all that have to do with decisions.
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions talks about the burden of having to constantly reevaluate choices and make difficult decisions.
Questions to Ask Your Doctor is a video that explains the list provided in this chapter's Chalkbook Strategy
Palliative Radiation discusses David's decision to accept radiation and what it involves.
|Tina graduates from college|
|A trip to the Arctic Circle|
|A namesake is born|
|Celebrating Jessica's graduation in Canada|
|An unforgettable trip to Europe; Mike, Michelle, Megan, Debbie, Matt, David|
|A special day with the grandchildren in Mexico|
|A special dinner with Brad|
To survive we must practice what has been working for us since this devastating disease changed our lives: focus on living, not dying. --David
My Exit Strategy shares David's HOPE for the end of his life. To die at Home surrounded by Others, Pain free and Excited until the end.
Finding Hope After Chemotherapy describes how David felt lost and alone after all the attention during treatment. David talks about how he found hope once we finished his chemotherapy.
Its Back describes how the cancer was invisible on PET scans for a year, but grew back once again. David shares the realization once again that he is going to die.
The complications of cancer treatment, both physical and emotional, are not to be underestimated. Caregivers are patients also; however, they are not recognized as such by the health care team. I remember the first time I gave David shots in his stomach. I cried every time, knowing I was hurting him. You just do what you have to do!
There are Two Patients Not One. In this video, Davids final, he discusses the challenges of caregiving. He died 6 weeks after making this video for one of Debbie's medical-student lectures.
Preparing for Caregiving. In this video Debbie shares the ways caregivers need to be prepared as they begin this journey.
Mans Best Friend Talks About Cancer. This video was our most fun to make. Meet our dog, Chewy, who has a very important role even today in my life. He takes care of me--David told him to.
Just a few of the many medical photos showing challenges.
I hope to be pain free and excited about the end. Knowing that these things don't always work out, at a minimum I hope Debbie is holding my hand and lying by my side. It would be great if I were aware of her presence and of others who may be surrounding me, but again, this may not be likely either. At least it feels good to think that it may happen this way.--David
Hospice It's Time. In this video David discusses his decision to go on hospice early. He was on hospice exactly 180 days. We cherished each one as finally we had someone to call when things went wild. We had someone to check on things without bothering our physicians.
|A last picture with Tina, Becky, Jessica, Debbie and Ollie, three days before he died|
|A foot bath every night- the highlight of the day|
|Sunshine for the soul|
|An afternoon lunch with Brad|
|A final goodbye to Ollie|
The hurt, the grief, is directly proportional to the love we felt and experienced with the person we lost.--David
The Love/Grief Equation. Hear David discuss his love and grief equation in person.
One Last Time. Rocky Mountain National Park is the setting for this video as David describes how he wants his ashes taken up to his favorite spot.
The Celebration of Life for David B. Oliver
|Becky, Debbie, Brad and David celebrate a beautiful day|
Enjoy David's Memorial Celebration. Caution: It totals 2 hours! It was a party to behold. Laugh and cry with us as we remember this amazing man and give thanks for his legacy.
Photos from our hike up the mountain to grant his final wish.
|Loch Vale Lake|
|Ready to go--Jessica, Becky, Debbie, Tina, Brad|
|Brad, Becky and Justin stop on the trail|
|We made it!|
|Ashes carried by all with a memorial water bottle|
|We gather to begin the hike|
|Ollie and Jessica put Grandpa in the water|
"I pray that Debbie, and our children and grandchildren will draw on their memories of the wonderful moments of love and affection that we have shared. they will miss me because of the memories, yet without these special times our lives would not be what they have been. I hope they dwell on that thought, and celebrate it." David B. Oliver
On June 21, 2016 Becky married Justin on the island of Santorini, Greece. When she was ten years old and went to Santorini the first time, she told David that she was going to get married there-- and on this day she did. Surrounded by 30 friends and family we celebrated a new start. This our first family photo since David died represents a new start, represented by this family photo, our first since David died. From left to right Michelle, Mike, Megan, Matt, Justin, Becky, Tina, Debbie, Ollie, Jessica and Andrew--missing Brad and family the entire time!
|Here comes the bride!|
|Escorted by Uncle Brian|
|The look of love|
|And she rides the donkeys again!|
|Let's make it to the boat on time!|
|Bride Becky, Justin, Megan|
|Heading up in a cable car|
|Ready or not here she comes|
|I do I do|
|Greek music abounds|
|Andrew, Ollie, and Jessica|
|Mike and Becky dance-- and David smiles|
|Matt, Megan and Debbie|
|2016 Matt and Megan|
|2011 Matt and Megan with Grandpa David there|
|Mike and Michelle|
|Mike and David 2011|
|And the idea was born as Becky and Tina share!|